A Friend to Die For (1994) Reviews

• True story

  Solnichka2003-05-02

  This movie is based on real events in Orinda, CA, during the summer and fall 1984. It's important to remember the reality of what lies behind the film: much like the gun-toting kids we see today, we have to remember kids are cruel to each other and we all act like it is normal and acceptable. It isn't. I grew up with the victim's family, and this whole tragedy was hard on everyone in the community; however, the blame lies with all parties. Kids learn to be cruel to other kids from their parents. Good parents teach their kids to respect other kids and be kind to everyone. Orinda, CA, with a few exceptions, was not a place where good parents raised their kids. Many places with money are like this; many places without money are like this, too. Everyone focuses on the singular tragedy of something like this, and they fail to look at macrocosmic problem. Everyone wants to blame the lone nut instead of thinking how their own behavior impacted the situation. No one wants to imagine this could happen, but it does. And it happens because parents absentmindedly teach their kids it is alright to tease and mock those who are different or don't fit in. Watch this with your child and use it as a tool for teaching them respect for everyone, not just for the "cool" kids.

• Classic Peer Abuse

  elizabethbennett2003-01-23

  This is a story that shows us how far people will go to avoid being bullied by their peers and belonging which occurs frequently in girls. We see Angela who is an insecure teenager that strives to be popular. Stacy is the classic bully, one who suffers from the "Princess Syndrome" and everything seems to go her way despite her behavior. This shows that bullying DOES get out of hand and that kids will go to any lengths to avoid becoming victims or targets of Peer Abuse. A really good film that exhibits Peer Abuse in girls during the teenage years.

• Will society ever learn?

  MarieGabrielle2006-05-06

  No, this is not the most unique film about bullying, alienation and violence in high schools today. But this film is acceptable when you note the hypocrisy of an American community when confronted with its demons. The prosecution admittedly pursued the death penalty in a case where it was not even applicable, to feed the PR flames and incite headlines across America. If the underlying theme had been more developed, there was a much more important story to be conveyed here. Other than the obvious, Angela Delvecchio (Kellie Martin) as the odd girl out, desperately attempting to be popular (Unfortunately, her parents and teachers never told her this would cease to matter in 2 years anyway), with Tori Spelling as the "popular girl" for that year. They may have picked a more sympathetic victim other than Spelling. There is a brief role for Terry O'Quinn, as the pretentious principal; babbling about Santa Maria excellence and perfection. We see his dismissal of Delvecchio (Martin) and how important his approval and praise was for her. Andy Romano and Valerie Harper portray Angela Delvecchio's parents, and paint a realistic picture of the community's hypocrisy- everyone in America wants to succeed, have a bigger house, drive a foreign car, and this all ties in with being a popular cheerleader in Delvecchio's mind, at least. Kellie Martin is a sympathetic character, and does quite well projecting Delvecchio's despair. Maybe they should produce a follow-up movie, to see if things have changed in that particular school. Other films have more accurately dissected teen violence: "Bully", "Elephant" and "Bang, bang, you're dead", for example. But this film still deserves credit for addressing some of the less popular notions in America today: that something is amiss, values are distorted, and kids are being affected by this.

• Well acted and an important message

  alliesmom972005-06-16

  "A Friend to Die For" was a very good TV movie. Based on a true story, it tells the story of a young girl who murders a more popular classmate. Both the young leads did a great job in their roles. The story opens with the actual murder and then launches into the story surrounding it. So effective in her role as the bitchy Stacy is the always attractive Tori Spelling that you almost start to lose sympathy for her as a victim as the movie progresses. It's a big change for her from her role as the sweet, perky Doanna Martin on 90210. Kellie Martin, who is both beautiful and talented, does an equally awesome job as Angela; she is a little too shy, a little too poor and WAY too eager to fit in with the "right" crowd. As wrong as her actions were, you find yourself sympathizing with her. Although she handled her anger and hurt in a very wrong way, the emotions brought on by her treatment at the hands of Stacy (which was also wrong) were real and understandable. By the end of the movie I found myself feeling sad for everyone involved and thinking how different things could have and should have been. IT makes you wonder what went wrong with these two girls that Stacy had no respect for those different or less popular than herself and that Angela felt so badly about herself that she needed Stacy's friendship and approval to feel worthwhile. A little research will provide you with some interesting information on the actual case. I found it very telling that a friend of the "real" Stacy (Kirsten Costas) dismissed any suggestions that Kristen and her crowd were mean-spirited bullies with the comment "She was only mean to people she didn't care about." How sad that young people today have the attitude that it is OK to mistreat people you don't like. While Kirsten didn't deserve to die and the hands of Bernadette Protti (the "real" Angela), her superior "I am better than you and therefore I shall make you an object of my amusement" attitude is far too prevalent today.

• Kellie Martin played the role masterfully.

  forceten452002-08-25

  Kellie Martin did a masterful job playing the role of an awkward teenage girl desperately yearning for acceptance from the "In" crowd in high school. Two scenes that totally sold me on how convincing the role of Angela was played was when Angela was being dropped off for the ski trip and, in front of the other kids, Angela's mother goes to clean Angela's face with a handkerchief. Embarrassed, Angela moves her mother's arm and storms off to collect her bag. As Angela lifts her bag, she looks back to her mother and gives her a classic "Why did you do that, mom?" look that I think only Kellie Martin can make convincing. Finally, after being initiated by the Larks, Angela and the other girls go off driving looking for guys to kiss. Angela gets snubbed as she attempts to kiss an elder gentlemen sitting in his car. Reflecting on her public humiliation, Angela has a heart to heart talk with her sister about her wanting to be someone else. Kellie Martin played the role masterfully!